Day 17: FaceBook dedicated today to #TBT, or Throw Back Thursday, I guess. Being that today was going to be my 26th wedding anniversary, I pulled out some old photos from the day. It's fun to see yourself young and vibrant and hopeful. Only it feels a little like posting a picture on Match.com that does not exactly resemble you anymore. I suppose I wanted to clarify my choice of day to celebrate. Certainly the fact that the marriage ended in an earlier demise than intended was not my point in the posting.
I have come to realize over the years that it is truly important to celebrate important anniversaries in our lives. Birthdays are the accepted norm, but when you celebrate old unsuccessful marriages or deaths, people tend to get weirded out and think you are living in the past. The opposite could not be more true. I find that celebrating milestones in my life, good or bad, keep me on track. I have a chance to regroup and re-evaluate my current path. Am I making the same mistakes I did then? Have I grown since then? I feel if I bury such huge parts of my life I am denying a part of me, a part that struggled, fell down, made mistakes, got back up, and survived.
I look at this picture in particular because this little girl, my flower girl Elizabeth, is now a grown woman who has travelled the world, is successful, and now navigating her own path in life, searching just like the rest of us. Life is so tough but also so absolutely incredibly beautiful when we take stock in where we were, how far we have come, and where we may still have the opportunity to go.
Today I am very grateful to have such anniversaries to celebrate, and ironically, my divorce happened 18 years later, only 2 days shy of the actual 18th wedding anniversary. So, today I celebrate.
I have come to realize over the years that it is truly important to celebrate important anniversaries in our lives. Birthdays are the accepted norm, but when you celebrate old unsuccessful marriages or deaths, people tend to get weirded out and think you are living in the past. The opposite could not be more true. I find that celebrating milestones in my life, good or bad, keep me on track. I have a chance to regroup and re-evaluate my current path. Am I making the same mistakes I did then? Have I grown since then? I feel if I bury such huge parts of my life I am denying a part of me, a part that struggled, fell down, made mistakes, got back up, and survived.
I look at this picture in particular because this little girl, my flower girl Elizabeth, is now a grown woman who has travelled the world, is successful, and now navigating her own path in life, searching just like the rest of us. Life is so tough but also so absolutely incredibly beautiful when we take stock in where we were, how far we have come, and where we may still have the opportunity to go.
Today I am very grateful to have such anniversaries to celebrate, and ironically, my divorce happened 18 years later, only 2 days shy of the actual 18th wedding anniversary. So, today I celebrate.
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